In my times of reflection and thought I am often so thankful for many of the things in my life that are constants. My family, always a phone call away to help with anything. My wife, the anchor in my life of love, support, encouragement and most of all friendship. I have been so burdened lately with troubles that I have heard about in a few different marriages. It breaks my heart that so many young people struggle with marriage. Marriage should be the joining of two best friends for a long life of love and support, "through sickness and heath, richer or poorer, for as long as you both should live." I know that this is somewhat cheesy or cliche but it's true. Marriage is so much more than the certificate, it is not a piece of paper, anyone can get that and it means nothing, but marriage is the bond that you have with only one person that is so special nothing should be able to tear it apart. The problem with this is when we allow ourselves to begin forming bonds with people of the opposite sex other than your spouse. It is one thing to have friends, I have many "girlfriends" but I do not talk to them about certain things that should be talked about only with guy friends in the right context and setting. If not these talks begin to form the special bond, I am sure that this sounds crazy and it is, but husbands and wives do not wake up one morning and cheat on their spouse, it takes weeks and months of talking to someone of the opposite sex about personal things in your life when you should not be. Next thing you know you are justifying your action because "he or she understands you better" and you never would have allowed this to happen but it "just happened." It didn't "just happen" you spent the last three months making sure that it was going to happen.
Sorry for the rant but it really makes me sick seeing the state of marriage today.
Kids listen up!
I'm not an expert or have all the answers by any means but I love my wife, were happy, we get along and today was better than yesterday and it has been like that for the last 7 years.
"win her heart everyday" best marriage advise I ever received.
Today is is currently 25 degrees and with the 20 mile and hour winds, the weather channel is telling me it feels like 11 outside. I would say that's just about right. Every year when the weather changes and winter really sets in my mood changes to meet the cold weather outside. Not sure why I feel the need to hibernate with the bears and crawl inside myself and reflect on the year. Is it the cold weather, the end to another year? I turned 30 last week and I have been thinking about what that means and where I am at with my life, where I am going, what I am working towards. I have so many amazing friends in my life, a family that is always willing to help out and support me and a wife that is the most amazing person in my life. She is my best friend and supports me through everything I love her with all that I have. What to do? Where to go? So many questions.
Perhaps I just need a warm safe cave to spend this winter and wake up fresh and hungry for life?
Lauren and I have been married for three years and it has been the best years of my life.
I hang out at Albina Press as a lot of you are aware and I walked into the bathroom to find someone had wiped a booger on the wall next to the toilet. Now I have seen this in most mens bathrooms at rest stops and truck stops across the country but to see it in the coffee shop that I love, I was a little surprised. Most of the people are regulars and are in here everyday (I would like to think that the regular crowd is above that). The shop is off the beaten path enough that you don't really get homeless people, transients and some other kind of person I would typically associate this type of behavior.
I am a little embarrassed about how long it had been, but enough of that.
I am sick and I hate it. Worse than that I needed to go to DMV and the DEQ (Oregon's smog inspection) and I was dreading it. I went to a DMV that told me I needed to go to DEQ. DEQ took longer to get to it than to have the inspection done. Very helpful and told me the best DMV to go to and drove their waited about 15 min got all the paperwork done and went from Albina-DMV-DEQ-DMV-Albina in an hour and a half. I love Oregon?
I watched Karate Kid the other day and I noticed a few things.